The iBirds and the iBees, Cyber Chastity Belts

You may or may not want to read this – either way – please don’t hold it against me – I’ll be back to regular programming tomorrow (or the next day.)  :)  Oh and before we start – I want to give shout outs to Deeleea and Frankly Scarlett.  Your friendships mean so much to me!!!  Luvs to you!!!!  Xx!~Daisy!!!!

The iBirds and the iBees, Cyber Chastity Belts

My naive inner cyber child asked my grown-up real life self, “Daisy, where do cyber-babies come from?”  And I have to be honest – I was a little stumped.  Cyber babies?  Wtheck?  And why do I have an inner cyber child?

Anyway, it has been my unfortunate experience as of late, to be the target of cyber-pressure.  Say WHAT??  Yeah.  I know.  I was shocked too.  WTHECK??

Call me naive but I had no idea how similar cyber-dating was to RL dating.  IN FACT – it’s actually worse than real life dating.   Why?  Because I added the word CYBER to the front of it.  And not only does that make it SOUND worse but it also allows for a whole new breed of douchebags.  Cyber Douchebags.  And guess what?  Cyber Douchebags are SUPER douchebags.

So right here and now – I’d just like to throw it out there that I have a Cyber Chastity Belt.  And GUESS WHAT??  I don’t lower my standards just because YOU have an iCloak of anonymity which gives you more courage to cyber hit on me.  And want to know what else?   I kind of  think you’re cybersluts!  Yep.  Cybersluts.  And cowards.  Maybe I’m wrong but I have a feeling you wouldn’t DARE speak to me that way in real life.  And if I could CYBERSLAP you, I would!!!!!

HOWEVER – with that said – I think it’s completely different when two people are getting to know each other and start cyber flirting and having a little cybersexy time.  That’s normal.  And I think it’s kind of fun to have an iCrush on someone.  In fact I DO have an iCrush on someone :)  BUT!!!!! What’s NOT normal are all the dudes from UTAH fronting to be religiously devout and “ohsoMoral and wonderful” but are REALLY cyberdirty and gross!   Oh SNAP!!!  Yeah – I did  - I went there.  I said it – and I think it’s time more people started taking a stand against cyber douchebags!!  Do you really think that morals don’t translate into the digital world?

There will be no iBirds and iBees busy making iSpring happen on THIS computer with any Cybersluts.  I have cyberstandards and iMorals!!!!    And I’m not going to have a one-night cyber-fling with you just because you think the internet is a guilt-free realm.  It shouldn’t be!!!! and I DO think your computer has a virus and I DON’T want it to infect mine.

I’ve got a super-fire-wall-cyber-chastity-belt.

And just like in REAL LIFE – in my CYBERLIFE, I can’t be PRESSURED into any cyberGROSS with you.

Let’s talk dating – We’re prolly not compatible if … part 1

In an attempt to make myself more socially networked (haha!) I decided to update my status on a link-up site – “link-up” is quasi-code for dating.  HAHAHAHAHA!  Can you imagine?? Laugh out loud if you must – I do!!  I’m not in the market to date – I live in Australia and am quite content being single – but I thought it would be interesting to dabble a bit.  Want to know the results so far??

Oh I bet you are just DYING to know.  *wink*  After one week of being “updated” I’ve discovered some VERY interesting things about myself.  AAANNNDDD very interesting things about the way men try and pick-up chics online … I’ve learned which techniques are OVER USED, which seem fresh, which ones are SO DUMB and which ones make me smile.  It’s quite fascinating really!!

At first I replied to EVERY message.
EVERY MESSAGE!!!
But after getting THIRTY – yes THIRTY messages over the duration of ONE CLASS – I realized I HAVE to filter or I’ll spend the rest of my life replying to emails!!!  It’s the end of the semester – I honestly don’t have time to reply to a bajillion emails.

So how do I filter?  Which guys make the cut?  How can I possibly make that decision?  It seems so … so … so… MEAN!  And judgmental!!

I mean seriously – what if this dude happens to be perfect but his game is just a little off at the moment?  HAHA!  No.   At the moment, with my time schedule, in order for Mr. Right to actually BE Mr. Right – he’s going to have to be playing up to par.  OR if he’s playing to be a bestie and isn’t interested in anything more – he’s going to have to be funny.  :)  I could use the laughs right now!!  *cheesy smile*

Anyway – please don’t take this blog the wrong way. Part of my therapy/learning is that I am supposed to try and be more discriminating with my time because I so often feel overwhelmed with social engagements or guilty for wanting to be the introvert that I am.  My therapist says it’s OK for me to prefer not to hang out with some people.  And it’s OK if I would prefer to spend more time with A than B.

And so in the world of online dating – this is a GREAT opportunity for me to practice my filtering skills.  For example – today I read an email from a dude whose profile says that he can’t stand femi-nazis or those who are pro-choice.  Ok – I respect he has opinions on the matter.  But “femi-nazis?”  OMGOSH – I’m against Nazis but femi-nazi??  What does that even mean?? Oh so he’s against women who are feminist?  Maybe he’s not secure with his manhood?  I don’t know – I just know that he and I are NOT compatible.

#1 – we’re prolly not compatible if you use inflammatory speech and state that you hate or can’t stand a specific group of people on your profile page.  Unless of course you just can’t stand people who can’t stand other people – cuz I’m with you there!!  I have no tolerance for prejudice.  But if you are intolerant of others’views – not cool.  The world is all shades of grey – if you only see two colors – we’re PROLLY not compatible.

Anyway … funny funny … I wrote back to this guy and flat out told him that I probably hit MOST of his red-flags being that I’m not super conservative, I DO believe in women’s rights and I DON’T have a fascination with guns.  I didn’t NEED to write back – but seriously – I thought it would be better to be blunt that I’m NOT his girl.

Oh heavens.  Heavens heavens heavens.  He wrote back and asked me how I could call myself a Christian.  Hmm … \

Maybe he forgot about the story where Jesus didn’t shun or hate the prostitute??

Right – and HE’S the one who is Christian …

Ok – enough out of me.  :)  I’ll keep you updated on the sweet world of online match-making as time goes on.  HAHAHAHAHA!

Hypocritical Haters are prolly ugly *gasp!* And you shouldn’t hate Disney Princesses for being Beautiful

It’s not very often that I come down from Daisy’s Drama LaLa Land Cloud and blog about non-Daisy’s Drama LaLa FUN, so you can be sure that if I felt compelled to jump up on Daisy’s Super Expensive I-Can’t-Believe-I-paid-THAT-MUCH-for-”special”-non-soap-SOAP box today (why am I such a sucker for “green” products?) I must be pretty passionate about this subject.

I don’t see any more harm in an idealistic image of beauty than in being prejudiced AGAINST beauty.

I do NOT condone a one-size-fits-all beauty mold. I think it IS harmful. But I also think going to the opposite extreme is CERTAINLY worthy of reproach.

WHY am I mentioning this today?

Because I read Nicole from “laugh outloud“‘s blog about “Fallen Princesses” from JPG Magazine and the JPG project kinda p.i. double S ed me off. I think society hates on beauty too much. WHO CARES THAT BELLE WAS BEAUTIFUL??? We should hate her for OTHER reasons. anyway …

The Project:

To capture “real life” scenarios of our favorite Disney Princesses.

The Results:

AND THE ONE THAT RILED ME UP:

GRRR!!!!I freakin’ hate Belle – but this pic is soooooooooooooooooo not cool.

THEY MISSED THE MARK!!!

The idea is intriguing. In fact I’m quite taken by the idea and would even go so far as to say I LUV the idea. Disney Princesses in real life? BRILLIANT!!! But the results? Suck big time.

Belle is being attacked by haters!

(prolly ugly ones)

omgosh – I can’t believe I just typed that! But hey – it’s prolly true!!!

Why I believe she’s being attacked by haters:

Umm hello??? Did anyone else besides me watch the “Beauty and the Beast”?? Belle was a freakin’ nerd. That’s right – she was a NERD! She was beautiful – yes – but she loved books more than make-up or push-up bras. Her favorite place in the world?? The LIBRARY!! or bookstore. You really think if Belle was in REAL LIFE she’d be under the knife?

Ok – so Disney gave her perfectly arched eyebrows and a nice rack. So what?

IF YOU STOP BEING SUPERFICIAL YOU SEE BELLE IS MORE ABOUT BRAINS THAN BEAUTY

And THIS is what makes me so angry!!! Our society (on both sides of the fence) is OBSESSED WITH LOOKS! and the people who CLAIM to be fighting AGAINST an image obsessed society ACTUALLY CONTRIBUTE TO IT! No one should be mad because Belle was beautiful. GUESS WHAT?? SOME PEOPLE really ARE beautiful. That is the LEAST of her troubles. And focusing on her looks? It’s hypocrisy in an ugly way. No pun intended – it IS ugly.

The REAL reason you should hate Belle:

I don’t hate Belle because she’s beautiful. I hate her because she represents something I had to fight very hard to overcome in my own life. Codependency.

When the Victim’s Right Advocate came to my house 2.5 years ago because the state of Utah ordered her to come I was SO MAD! I didn’t need an advocate. What did she know anyway? Well – she knew a lot.

“He hit you.”

“Yep.”

“Are you going to leave him?”

“I don’t know. I love him.”

Then she said something that changed my life.

“Let me guess, Beauty and the Beast was your favorite Disney movie?”

SHOCK!!!! How did she know? How could she POSSIBLY GUESS THAT??

It’s called “The Beauty and the Beast Syndrome”

And that is NOT a clinical term. It’s a term that some Victim’s Rights Advocates use to explain why some women think that love is enough. Because it is right? Oh – wait – it ISN’T. And it doesn’t matter how much you love someone – you can’t love them into something they’re not.

I’m going to repeat that one again – it’s important.

You can’t love someone into something they’re not.

And Belle? She gives little girls the ideas that those mean, hurtful men that they stupidly fall in love with will change and turn into princes.

Her story give girls the idea that inside every beast is a prince waiting to escape.

And if you just love him enough – if you just have faith – if he just loves you enough – it will all work out right? No.

And in REAL LIFE??

Belle wouldn’t be under the knife getting cosmetic surgery. She would be naturally beautiful, intelligent AND she’d make some really terrible love choices and probably end up hiding in the library with a couple domestic violence bruises from her beast of a partner.

And if the “artist” behind these pics wanted to take a step BEYOND superficiality…

If she wanted to step outside of her hypocrisy and look past appearances, maybe she could have photographed an incredibly powerful image of a beautiful and intelligent woman in love with a true beast (an abusive partner.)

… just a thought.

Jealousy shouldn’t equate to judgment.

Coveting shouldn’t turn into condemning.

Being a hater makes someone uglier on the inside than the person they’re hating on

(supposing the person being hated on is even ugly on the inside at all!!!)

>.< ANGRY >.< yes-indeed-ee – Rally against International Student Discrimination

Ok so if you read my blog last semester you would know that I think Australians (in general – let’s not get all defensive and angry with me here) are TERRIBLY racist.  Not just against Americans but against all sorts of internationals.  If you’re from Europe you get a free “cool” pass but the rest of us have to EARN it.  And by EARN I mean meet the few Australians who aren’t racist. >.< there aren’t many things that get me riled up – but this is DEFINITELY one of them!!!

Rally to be held at Sydney Town Hall – June 7th at 12:00pm

Exhibit A – the email I received from SUPRA – a student union at Sydney Uni – announcing a rally to be held protesting the discrimination against international students. http://twitpic.com/6n984

Exhibit B – the flyer attached to the email – http://twitpic.com/6n9ii

Exhibit C – a news story from Melbourne about a racist attack  http://bit.ly/cCtkD

I’m pretty sure I could give you exhibits d-z but instead I’ll just say that I know from first hand experience that international students ARE discriminated against.

I’ve been discriminated against for being American

and I know it’s much worse for Indian students.

And speaking of discrimination – the Australians at work are racist too!

I was so happy that I got a “cool kid pass” at work.

Next weekend some workmates are having a “cool kid” night after work and only the “cool kids” were invited.  I was pepped up about it because I’m new and that’s pretty sweet that they’re including me.  YAY!!

UNTIL I LEARNED WHO WAS BEING EXCLUDED

and then that “yay” went to – you stupid cool kids are mo-fo jack-As.  And I don’t want to be a “cool kid” if it means that you are going to sit around and make fun of my not-cool friends.  You see I’m friends with ALL the people in the store – I didn’t realize that cool kids exclude and make fun of the not cool ones.  GO TO H.E.DOUBLE COOL KIDS!!

One of the guys labeled as not cool enough told me that I’m one of the only people he likes in the store because I’m one of the ONLY PEOPLE WHO TREATS HIM WITH RESPECT AND AS AN EQUAL.  He’s Indian and therefore he is a target for all racist jokes and slander.  :( THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THIS!!!

Ok ok – I could rant and rave about this for ages but I won’t.  Let me just make this VERY VERY CLEAR.

IT’S NOT COOL TO BE PREJUDICED!!!  AND I HOPE YOU GO TO – somewhere really TERRIBLE – and get what you deserve if you make fun of people because of their race or their nationality!!!

Are you for REAL?? Don’t hate Twitter but please make fun – oh and cool video and sweet pics. :)

Maybe I’m still pepped up from yesterday’s post but I’m throwing out a little sass today with a list of “Are you for real?”zz

  • I spied with my own little eyes some REALLY SMART GIRL on FB who said in a status comment “another weekend and I would totally of gone”  Totally OF gone?  Maybe she should totally OF gone to skool so she’d be heaps smart likes me is.
  • Ok next – Twitter Haters – are you for real?  I know you SAY you’re too busy to tweet and all because you like have a life and stuff and I know you’re totally saying it like you’re so super self-important and have better things to do with your time – but for real?  GET OVER YOURSELF.
  • And now – Twitter-maker-fun-of-ers?? Please DON’T stop because you provide me with LOLs.  Like this awesomeness:

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  • And yeah … I should probably go to bed now so we’ll stop there.  Except you should see this pic that I got from fannypackantics.com’s post – Purple Rain who apparently got it from fivestrongs.blogspot.com
  • touristcloakAre you for real?  HAHA!  That cloak is magically terrible and terribly AWESOME!
  • Oh can’t forget to add THIS beautiful product that I discovered on “This is why you’re fat” .com.  It needs no comment:
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Alright then – I think I can end it there … yeah …

OH WAIT!!!!  Almost forgot this gem too.  One more for your viewing pleasure – picture from gofugyourself.com

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I need those pants.  ;) Good night!!