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x, xo, xx, xoxo, Xx and maybe even XX

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DEFINITIONS AT THE END

Here is an IM Chat from a couple days ago with the one and only MIUB (Most Important Utah Boy.)  I should give a disclaimer here though – in case any of my readers know him – MIUB and I are just friends. In fact we even talk about our dating lives – it’s cool.  Not many guys are cool enough to stay friends with you after a crush. (ex: CC+4.)  [insert look of death.]  But MIUB raised a good topic of discussion – the meaning of Xs, Xxs and Os.  :)

I give strict (non-IM) definitions at the end.  :)

MIUB – hey i have a question for you….when you put just “xx” instead of xoxo, which are those hugs or kisses?

ME – it means kisses – but not like in the creepy way or anything

MIUB – no its cute but i just wasn’t sure which one the x was.

MIUB – i didn’t want to think you were giving me kisses when you were actually leaving them out and just giving me hugs

ME – LOL – that made me laugh.  I don’t think I’ve ever just done a “oo” – that looks kind of weird too.
ME – I should do that to boys who I don’t like though huh?  that’d be so funny!  oh and btw – there are different levels of the “x”s
ME -there’s the ONE x, or the two xx or Xx

MIUB – What does the x mean – just the one?  like a friendship kiss on the cheek?

MIUB – then xx is a nice kiss on the lips but just quick and lips interlocked then the Xx is the big dog?

ME – LOL – I’ve always kind of thought of it as an “x” is a kiss on the cheek, “xx” is the kiss on both cheeks (like Italians do) kinda – and then “Xx” is like a lip-kiss.

MIUB – I was pretty close.  So I usually get the Italian one.

MIUB – ok I’ll take it.

ME – well I’d throw out the other one – but again – I try not to be creepy ;)

MIUB – creepy never came to mind with you.

MIUB – what does this mean XX cause I’m about to drop that on you

MIUB – XX


I love having friends who I can flirt with!!!  It’s the BEST!!! Speaking of which – in an effort to contradict everything I ever write – I took the Captian off my Z list today.  Does this mean I am going back to my “playa” ways?  Not exactly.  I did turn down a REAL date offer this weekend – but you see – the Captain and I don’t date – we just “catch-up.”  :) And I see no harm in that anymore.

DEFINITIONS:

x -

this is used for anyone.  boy or girl, friend or more-than-friend – an “x” is a cute/nice gesture or sign that you care.  I use this all of the time to tons of people.   In fact I don’t think I EVER send an email to my FM or his GF without an “x” at the end.

xx or xo -

very similar to the “x.”  I use this when I want to say, “you’re adorable” or “I’m teasing you.”  If I say something sarcastic and want to make sure they don’t think I was being mean I ALWAYS add an “xx” to the end.   Or with my BFF Crysta – I always sign emails with xo or xoxo.  It just a term of endearment.  :)

Xx -

this one I generally only use for boys.  I USED TO sign my emails to CC+4 with “Xx.”  And to ME this is more of a KISS – though sometimes I accidentally capitalize xs and so it can’t ALWAYS be taken seriously.  :)

XX -

definitely a kiss.  That’s just how it is.

XxXX, XXX, XoXXo -

If you receive any variations of the above – it probably means I have a crush on you.  OR that I’m flirting outrageously with you because I can.  :D

xoxoxoxo or XOXOXOXO-

I sign things like this to my mom – it just means what it means – hugs and kisses.

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Ok well – hope we’re all clear now.  :)

Yours truly,
xx ~Daisy

Oh and here’s one of the new pics hanging in my bedroom – They’re my babies!! :)
happy puppies

How to tell if you are in love according to “The Farmer Wants A Wife”

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Tonight was the season finale for “The Farmer Wants a Wife.”  Remember when I fell in love with the show? I remember that too.  :) I found it refreshing to see people care more about values and substance than looks.  YAY!

Anyway – I’m DISAPPOINTED with the outcome of the show.  Dumb boys.  I guess it doesn’t matter if you’re a farmer or [insert any occupation] if you’re a boy you are dumb should read the book “The Way of The Superior Man.”

Ok so to the big news – if you’re not sure if you’re in love you should ask yourself the following 3 questions:

  1. Do you speak to each other almost every day?
  2. Do you look forward to seeing each other?
  3. Do you feel the other person helps or inspires you be a better person?

If you answered “yes” to all 3 of these questions.  Congratulations!  You’re in love!  [roll my eyes - I kinda think if you're in love you shouldn't need a 3 question test to tell you!!]

Ok – off to homework.  Have a FANTASTIC day!!

Pick-up lines and the t-shirt that solidified my super-villian status

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Allow me to elucidate. ;) I did NOT join the popular Utah link-up site which will remain nameless for the purposes of dating. I did it as a – well – kind of as a challenge.  My BFF Matty Matt and I wanted to see how many profile views I would get in one week.  I hit 2nd most viewed profile and called it good.  I didn’t log on again.  Until today.

Why did I do it?  Because I was bored. I had to wait around for the FedEx guy to arrive and he was taking FOREVER!  Plus everyone knows that logging onto the internet is what you should do when you’re bored.  [umm ...]  So I logged on and updated my status. Within minutes of logging on I had ten new messages.  WHAT?  This site has tons of married people on it – it’s a “networking site” – but we all REALLY know that it’s mostly used for dating. So LUCKY me!  And you! Because I’m sharing the sweet messages I got today:

  • Why aren’t you married?  (yep that’s all it said.  Hmm … I know why YOU aren’t with THAT pick-up line!)
  • I’m an ex-cop now working in TV.  Hope to hear back from you. 
  • I stubbled across your profile.  Wanted to say hi.  (You stubbled?  I didn’t know that was a word.)
  • Dang!!!, I take it your done with utah? too bad I missed you  (no no sweetie – thank GOODNESS I missed you.)
  • Hey Red, how is your day?  I lived in Brisbane for 2 years.  btw I’m a Psychologist.  (Btw – I don’t care and don’t EVER call me “red.”)
  • What!  you went to the UofU and didn’t say hey to me.  Do you have any super powers? (YES I DO!!!  Omgosh. How did he know?)
  • Thanks for inviting me for a swim!  (What?  But I didn’t … umm … WHAT?)
  • What are your favorite guilty pleasures?  (Umm hello?  Go away gross-o.  This isn’t a drama class or a romance novel.)

The others (there were about 12 more by the end of the day) were either acceptable or slight variations of the above.  So what type of responses WILL get a reply from me? Ones that make me laugh. But mostly I just look at the profile pic :) and go from there.  Let’s be real here – it’s an online networking aka dating site – I’m allowed to be superficial.  :)

Here’s a pic from New Zealand last week.  My t-shirt says “Stop Youth Obesity” and there’s a chubby boy catapulting a skinny boy off a see-saw.  On a scale from 1-angel to 10-devil – my FM says this puts me at 12. But … but … but …

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He has kids??

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One of my girlfriends, we’ll call her Mrs. Know, and I were IM-ing this morning and she surprised me with information about Dance Dance.  My date with Dance Dance is this evening and she had no idea I was going to go out with him – can we say coincidence?  It piqued my interest and I asked her to tell me a little more about him.  Mrs. Know is known for 2 things – knowing everyone and knowing the skeletons of everyone.  I can’t count how many times I’ve shook my head and wondered “Why did she just tell me that?”  I usually respond to her gossip with, “So?  What does that matter?”  ) And it is for this reason I have not been privy to the latest gossip (that’s ok with me!)

I couldn’t resist the latest stream today since it had to do with Dance Dance.  Mrs. Know doesn’t spread anything that is false – she only scoops the hard facts.  Kids, divorces, real estate, schooling, arrest record, religious orientation etc.  These things still shouldn’t be spread around like piping hot honey on a piping hot scone but I’m grateful she leaves it at the facts.  (Though I wonder what she says about me!  I’ve heard some of it.  Oh Daisy?  Daze is my GIRL!  (she calls me Daze.) She’s awesome but just so you know she doesn’t really go to church.  Sure I’ll introduce you but just so you know she’s dated so and so and so and so and so and so…  blah blah blah – ah well – it is what it is.)

So the scoop about Dance Dance?  Nothing too critical except for one big problem!!!  HE HAS KIDS!!!  I thought those were his BROTHERS in his facebook pictures – not his kids!  He apparently has like an 11 year old and a 9 year old.  11 and 9?  I’m only 26!!!

So of course Matty Matt got an immediate text:  “What do I do?”   Matty Matt said, “Cancel.”

I IM-ed MIUB and said “What do I do?”  MIUB replied back with, “How hot is he?”  and then said, “Cancel.”  Oh MIUB – you are so predictable.

Hmm ….

Scott Pete said to give him a chance.

So what did I do?  I went on the date.  ) And I’m glad I did.

He was a perfect gentleman the entire night.  He’s smart, ambitious, sporty, cute, genuine, fashionable and scored major points when the appetizer came out and he double checked the ingredients to make sure I could eat it (I’m gluten intolerant.)  Yeah it made me remember that time MIUB knew I was gluten intolerant and picked a PASTA house as my last dinner with him before I moved.  Hmm …

Ah – but that’s what I loved most about MIUB – self-absorption is SO underrated!  ;)

Anyway – we were supposed to watch a movie afterwards but instead sat around talking for a few hours.  This morning I had a text bright and early saying he had a nice time last night and he thought getting to know me a bit was way better than watching a movie.  And I’m sure you won’t be surprised that an invitation to try the watch a movie thing again was extended.  And I accepted.  How could I resist?

Oh and did I mention he also sent me a text saying, “Hey I know a lot of great boutiques around here so if you need to do some shopping before you leave I’d love to join you.”  Wait – what?  With the exception of MIUB and Matty Matt there aren’t a whole lot of men up to the challenge of shopping with Daisy … hmm … he does know how to work it doesn’t he?

I think I’m seeing him again Sunday.  )

Dance Dance has some smooth moves

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I have a love/hate relationship with dating games.  But who doesn’t?   You don’t?  Are you telling me that you ALWAYS – always every single time without fail forever and ever and every single time in the past (I think that’s what always means) you ALWAYS hate them?  You’ve never even kinda sorta maybe smiled when someone used one effectively “against” you?    Not all the games are bad.

For example may I please present to you Dance Dance.  I met Dance Dance at the Sugaa Bowl party where the Utes DOMINATED!!  Ok the truth of it is that I’ve seen Dance Dance at other parties but WOW it’s amazing how many more boys have the courage to talk to you when you don’t arrive at the party with your male BFF.  (mental note: continue to arrive at parties with your male BFF.)

He got my number through the use of the very predictable “May I borrow your phone” ploy and then played it cool throughout the night.  And even though I refused to dance with him (I don’t dance with boys – though yes I DID dance with a certain boy in Vegas) he still found me at the end of the night.   He offered me the shelter of an umbrella and his arm so I could make it to my car without slipping in my heels (it was snowing.)  Ah – he’s a gentleman!

True to dating rules I had a facebook friend request the next day and then a facebook message a couple days after that … I decided to make it easy on him.  “Maybe we should try that hang out thing again sometime – except this time I’ll show up.”  You see I had previously declined an offer…

“Hmm” he says, “When?” Nicely done – he put me on the spot.
“Anytime from Thursday on.” I replied.
“Ok.  Thursday then?” Ooh he jumped right on that didn’t he?  No chance at backing out.
“Thursday’s great.” 
“Do you mind if we get dinner first?” he asked. Smooth.  Look I’m not a proponent of games but I do find myself very intrigued by a guy who can play it this smoothly.
“Sounds perfect,” I replied, “I’ll look forward to it.”

Well it looks like I just got roped into a date??  I think so.   I received a text from him today (this was written on Wednesday) confirming dinner for tomorrow at 7:00.  I confirmed and he asked for my address which I gave to him BUT I also included “May I meet you somewhere to make it easier?”

He ignored me.  Of course he did.  And I guess that answers the date question.   It’s a date!

We’ll see if this guy can keep it up.  So far he’s playing his cards better than expected.  Not to mention he is sure making LOSER look like an even BIGGER loser.

Loser’s text tonight:  Have you gone back yet?
Mine:  Not yet…
Loser’s text:  Then why aren’t we hanging out?
Mine:  Because it’s Wednesday.  Tuesday’s are so much better.  Oh I just love dishing out a little sass!  He had his chance.

If he’s smart he’ll hold me to my word next Tuesday – but I don’t think he’s that smart.