Online Dating goes in steps. Today we’re going to talk about step SEVEN – yes step SEVEN – the voice call.
I’m not going to lie – I think I have this online dating thing about figured out. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I’m kidding – kind of. Ok the fact of it is – that I had no intention of pursuing online dating AT ALL but then I met some dudes who seemed to be pretty cool and as I engaged in contact with them I realized there were similarities in relationship patterns. It’s quite fascinating!!!
Oh and watch for my upcoming book “Online Dating for the Dense.” HAHAHAHAHA – just kidding – for real this time – well 90% for real. I think I COULD prolly write a book on my studies but we’ll save that for another post.
Step Seven – A pretty big deal
Step seven is a pretty crucial step in online dating. Yeah – that’s right – it’s a pretty big deal. No more hiding behind words – the dude you’re talking to will now be able to HEAR you laughing at him, HEAR the cynicism in your voice, HEAR excitement – whatever – he can HEAR it. And omgosh – don’t let me forget – umm – say hello to AWKWARD PAUSES. (though nothing is worse than an awkward pause on skype – but that’s like level NINE so we’ll discuss that another day.) So yeah – voice calls – a pretty big deal.
Timing is Key – calling too soon
WHY?? It’s just a phone call!! Well because you need to make sure the timing is right. Accurate voice call timing is crucial. Too soon and you may find yourself ending the phone call being like, “Umm alright -so yeah …” and you feel like you SHOULD say, “Talk to you soon” but you know you’re NEVER going to talk to him again so it’s a bit awkward. PLUS if he’s all like, “This was great – I’m so glad we talked” blah blah blah – well – you feel even MORE awkward when you realize you don’t want to talk to him again.
Timing is Key – waiting too long
And then you have the other side of the fence – waiting too long before the voice call. When this happens – you’ve been instant messaging so long that you already have an idea of how you think the other person sounds – or reacts – or just IS. You THINK you have an idea of their personality and then because of course you’re wrong – when you hear their voice you’re like, “omgosh – you sound like a nasal-y star trek geek who probably studies vulcan in your time off.” WHAT DO YOU DO THEN?? Here you had these great expectations and then you talk to him and you have a mini online dating crisis. Is this guy his voice?? Or is he his words??
Phone Calls – Golden!!
ANYWAY – if you’ve already made it through the first six steps of online dating and are prepared to take it to the next level – it’s a good sign. Buuuutttttt – BEWARE. Voice calls are not all they’re cracked up to be. (haha especially if your voice cracks while talking.) HOWEVER it’s not all gloom and doom. Sometimes you talk to someone on the phone and are pleasantly surprised. Suddenly you’re like, “Omgosh – I could totally see myself talking to you on a continual basis – you’re fun!” And THAT is pretty dang cool.
Oh wait – let’s not get too excited yet. Let’s be real – if you feel that it went SO AWESOME there’s a good chance he thought YOU sounded like a 16 year old girl who giggles too much.
Yeah – such is my life. I bet you can’t WAIT to read about Webcams. ;)
ANYWHO – Tonight I watched the sun set …
It was pretty. :)
And because I heart me some seagulls :) Here are a few of them:
(I hope you love these pics ScoMan.)
Yeayyyyyy! I love this! You must keep us posted!!! :)
Blogging I LOVE! Emailing I LOVE–but not as much as “chat”–like that instant gratification! Chatting is great, since I can now “see” the keyboard. But the best for me is telephoning, for it is only lacking in the “looking into the eyes” department. All the inflections, laughter, groans, yawns, spits, smoking, chewing, runny noses, everything can be heard above and beyond the voice.
Like the lady (Christine) said, “Keep us posted!”
Oh no! I seem to have missed six steps somewhere along the line. How did that happen? I’ll be lost forever in the world of online dating now, waiting to get to step 7 which I’ll never reach because I didn’t follow steps 1-6.. I don’t even know what they are!
Wait! This was all your idea to sell books wasn’t it? Tell us the last few steps without telling us the first few, so if we want to know how to get to the last few we have to go out and buy the books.
Oh you’re good.
Oh! And the seagull pics! I read today that someone called the RSPCA in England (which wouldn’t be called the RSPCA.. or would it? I don’t know. I’ve never been) Anyway, someone called them and reported a seagull that looked sad because it was wet.
There’s a heap of random calls like that. If you want to have a read and a laugh you can go to http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/985009/sad-seagulls-bat-shaped-puddles-plague-rspca and tell them I sent you.
I bet it was all a trap the seagull was setting. Look sad so people let their guard down and walk over and then BAM!
Double dipping here:
I just gotta say…LOVE those seagull photos. Especially that last little guy who posed so beautifully in a graceful moment of pas de deux balance.
Good photographer, I’m glad I subscribed.