In an attempt to make myself more socially networked (haha!) I decided to update my status on a link-up site – “link-up” is quasi-code for dating. HAHAHAHAHA! Can you imagine?? Laugh out loud if you must – I do!! I’m not in the market to date – I live in Australia and am quite content being single – but I thought it would be interesting to dabble a bit. Want to know the results so far??
Oh I bet you are just DYING to know. *wink* After one week of being “updated” I’ve discovered some VERY interesting things about myself. AAANNNDDD very interesting things about the way men try and pick-up chics online … I’ve learned which techniques are OVER USED, which seem fresh, which ones are SO DUMB and which ones make me smile. It’s quite fascinating really!!
At first I replied to EVERY message.EVERY MESSAGE!!!
But after getting THIRTY – yes THIRTY messages over the duration of ONE CLASS – I realized I HAVE to filter or I’ll spend the rest of my life replying to emails!!! It’s the end of the semester – I honestly don’t have time to reply to a bajillion emails.
So how do I filter? Which guys make the cut? How can I possibly make that decision? It seems so … so … so… MEAN! And judgmental!!
I mean seriously – what if this dude happens to be perfect but his game is just a little off at the moment? HAHA! No. At the moment, with my time schedule, in order for Mr. Right to actually BE Mr. Right – he’s going to have to be playing up to par. OR if he’s playing to be a bestie and isn’t interested in anything more – he’s going to have to be funny. :) I could use the laughs right now!! *cheesy smile*
Anyway – please don’t take this blog the wrong way. Part of my therapy/learning is that I am supposed to try and be more discriminating with my time because I so often feel overwhelmed with social engagements or guilty for wanting to be the introvert that I am. My therapist says it’s OK for me to prefer not to hang out with some people. And it’s OK if I would prefer to spend more time with A than B.
And so in the world of online dating – this is a GREAT opportunity for me to practice my filtering skills. For example – today I read an email from a dude whose profile says that he can’t stand femi-nazis or those who are pro-choice. Ok – I respect he has opinions on the matter. But “femi-nazis?” OMGOSH – I’m against Nazis but femi-nazi?? What does that even mean?? Oh so he’s against women who are feminist? Maybe he’s not secure with his manhood? I don’t know – I just know that he and I are NOT compatible.
#1 – we’re prolly not compatible if you use inflammatory speech and state that you hate or can’t stand a specific group of people on your profile page. Unless of course you just can’t stand people who can’t stand other people – cuz I’m with you there!! I have no tolerance for prejudice. But if you are intolerant of others’views – not cool. The world is all shades of grey – if you only see two colors – we’re PROLLY not compatible.
Anyway … funny funny … I wrote back to this guy and flat out told him that I probably hit MOST of his red-flags being that I’m not super conservative, I DO believe in women’s rights and I DON’T have a fascination with guns. I didn’t NEED to write back – but seriously – I thought it would be better to be blunt that I’m NOT his girl.
Oh heavens. Heavens heavens heavens. He wrote back and asked me how I could call myself a Christian. Hmm … \
Maybe he forgot about the story where Jesus didn’t shun or hate the prostitute??
Right – and HE’S the one who is Christian …
Ok – enough out of me. :) I’ll keep you updated on the sweet world of online match-making as time goes on. HAHAHAHAHA!
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Hi Daisy:
I have a question about your blog. Can you PLEASE respond to ari_strauch@hotmail.com as soon as you can? Thank you so much and looking forward to hearing from you.
Ari
Wow! That guy sounds like a real winner *insert major eye rolling here*. Good luck with that. I dont’ know if I could do that because I would probably answer all the emails because I don’t like turning people away or not giving them a chance.
I’m glad you responded to me…because it introduced me to this wonderful blog! :)
People who use hide behind their religion or their country as their excuse for their prejudices are weak.
I have slightly more respect for people who admit their bigotry is a result of their own hatred and not “because Jesus told me to”. But I think I respect people who urinate in public more than either group.